While virtually everybody would gladly embark on a marital journey, many people sadly do so without any idea on how to manage conflicts. When a man and woman live together in close proximity as is the case in the modern era, CONFLICTS are bound to arise. The way and manner they handle the brouhaha will determine the outcome of the marriage or relationship.

Do they sit down to talk things over, knowing that life is all about give and take? Do they flex their muscles and resort to exchange of blows? The choice is theirs! However when husband and wife fight each other, there is no winner. There are just 2 lousy losers, palpitating towards their precipice unaware of the impending calamity.

No man ever marries a woman so as to batter her to stupor and no woman ever marries a man so as to verbally abuse him to nothingness but along the way things happen and the race to Armageddon commences. But this never happen overnight and that is why it is highly advisable that all marriages and relationships should be equipped with early warning system with detective mechanisms.

Couple who establish clear rules on how to manage their conflicts will continue to re-invent their marital bliss. No matter what, family life must never be allowed to grind to a halt. Even when there is cold war or the rage is livid, both the man and woman must continue to perform their respective duties. Father must not withhold the funds, if he is the breadwinner and the wife must endeavour to serve pudendum no matter the urge to become stingy with it as punitive measures.

It is sad to note that many cohabiting partners now go to the gym to acquire the necessary muscles for a free for all fight between the couple, but is this what marriage is all about? Of what use is it for you to win all the arguments but then lose your spouse?

Marriage can be a very beautiful adventure. But it up to the parties involved to make that happen. If they get things right, they will enthrone a wonderful marital bliss but if they get it wrong, they will experience that hell a person can see before the other one.




About Tony Tokunbo Eteka Fernandez

Tony Tokunbo Eteka Fernandez is an International Award Winner, Published Author & Poet, Broadcast Journalist, MC and Youth Empowerment Consultant . He is also The CEO of AFRICA4U and The Founder of Africans in The Diaspora People also see him as a Cultural and Social entrepreneur, which means he is skilled in working with many different communities, bringing people together in successful focused events. Tony has organised many cultural events …involving both BME and mainstream communities. He is skilled in hosting events that reinforce community cohesion and bringing different kinds of people together. He has organised events in The UK, The U.S.A, Holland, Germany, Romania, Malta and Nigeria and has visited over 22 European Countries. Tony has also organised The Black History Month Celebrations at The UK House of Parliament for over five years in a row He continues to promote the true life and success stories of Africans in Europe and Africans around the world and has organised several small scale literary and awards initiatives aimed at empowering young people. He has also spent time as an International broadcaster and was The Producer and Presenter for AFRICA4U International Radio Talk Show at Reading4u Radio Station for nearly three years. Tony has interviewed high profile Members of Parliament, Distinguished celebrities and some of Africas best musicians including Ivonne Chaka Chaka and Kanda Bongoman. He has also been a guest on BBC Radio on numerous occasions to discuss the community cohesion events he organises at UK House of Parliament and also to recite some of his published work in memory of Nelson Mandela, 50 Years Anniversary of The race relations act and major community issues. Tony has also a Guest on popular Radio stations in Nigeria and The States In the last few years he has been very passionate about Youth empowerment, community cohesion and cultural intelligence. Tony was born in South London and has lived in several parts of England and Nigeria . He started writing at the tender age of nine, a habit he expressed with creative enthusiasm. Tony writes Poetry, short stories and proverbs on personal development. He is currently working on his 4th book which will also be his first novel. He is also into Public Speaking at Special events and Social functions and is a Mentor for young people in the UK Community. He completed a Bachelor of Arts degree at The University of Lagos, Nigeria in English and World Literature. He later went on to attain a teaching qualification at The Frances King International Training Institute, South Kensington London, it was here he studied Teaching English as a Foreign Language. He also studied Web Design at The City University in London. He published his first book in June 1999 called “The Beauty in the Dark” (A Collection of Poetry which received critical acclamation in many circles around the world). .Tony’s aim in life is to inspire the young generation and to encourage the youth to make the very best of their dreams and aspirations,. He published a 2nd book in June 2009 called ” The Sound of Running Water” – A Family gift book of proverbs and quotations on Personal Development and Positive Thinking . In December 2009, he published his 3rd book called “One Moment of Peace”.- A collection of Poetry inspired by personal experiences and spiritual growth. Besides the fact that the Artist has won International online awards, he is mostly inspired by Life experience, love, music and cultural awareness. He was Resident Poet at the 5th London Poetry Festival in 2009 and has been a guest on BBC Radio on very many occassions including The famous Anne Diamond Show. He has also been a guest on a few SKY TV stations and several International Radio Stations around The World
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