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On Saturday the 20th of June 2026, I went and did a big thing! A real life, motivating TEDx talk!!
I was honoured to be part of a fantastic line up of speakers at TEDxHeaton hosted in the impressive Bradford Grammar School. I was so grateful to be first on stage. Once my talk was over, I was able to relax and enjoy the rest of the day.
I learned something from every speaker. There was a wonderful mix of ideas, opinions, inspiring personal stories and sharing of information. The addition of live music and audience participation, combined to create a brilliant positive atmosphere.
A special thank to @Dr Sohail Abraham Ahmed for bringing TEDxHeaton to #Bradford and affording me the opportunity to tick a big item of my life bucket list. The event was delivered with incredible professionalism by an army of amazingly organised volunteers.
Today I spoke about AI, imagination, and the importance of moving beyond fear and moral panic when thinking about our technological future.
Drawing on ideas from my recent book AI Intimacy and Psychoanalysis, I argued that humanity has often responded to new technologies with anxiety and resistance. The printing press was once condemned as dangerous. The Luddites smashed the looms. And there is a darker version of the same reflex: when we do not destroy the machine, we sometimes persecute the people who think differently.
Yet history also reminds us that progress depends on our ability to imagine different futures.
As a filmmaker, writer, researcher and mentor, I have spent much of my life working alongside machines. The arrival of AI presents new challenges, but also extraordinary opportunities. The question is not only what these technologies will become, but what kind of relationship we choose to build with them.
Thank you to the organisers, particularly the convenor Dr Sohail Abraham Ahmed , the amazing volunteers, fellow speakers and the warm audience for creating such a thoughtful and welcoming event.
The future is not something that simply happens to us. It is something we imagine first and then build.
On Saturday, I had the privilege of delivering my TEDx talk at TEDxHeaton.
My talk, Who Decides When You’re Successful?, explored transformation and how redefining success based on our own inner compass can reshape the way we live, think, and grow.
As a single mum to a 16-year-old, and someone who has often navigated multiple responsibilities, I’m regularly asked how I “juggle it all.”
The truth is, when responsibility starts early, it doesn’t feel like juggling. It becomes rhythm. It becomes life.
This journey hasn’t been about forcing outcomes. It’s been about growth, lived experience, and learning to trust that inner compass along the way.
What stayed with me most was the connection in the room—sharing a message that clearly resonated with real people, in real time.
Grateful to have shared the stage with an inspiring group of speakers and to everyone who made the day possible.
The path from white belt to black belt represents the core of the black belt mindset, which is fundamentally based on Shoshin—a Japanese Zen concept meaning “beginner’s mind.” This empowering philosophy invites individuals to cultivate openness, curiosity, and a non-judgmental attitude across all areas of life, including work, personal relationships, and self-exploration. In a society that often prioritizes expertise and immediate solutions, Shoshin acts as a crucial counterbalance, highlighting the importance of fresh perspectives.
As Raj Soren explains in Black Belt Mindset for Life and Business, “In the beginner’s mind, there are many possibilities.” This observation emphasizes the vast potential that arises when we view challenges and experiences with curiosity and a willingness to learn. Embracing a beginner’s mindset can unlock creativity, improve problem-solving skills, support personal growth, and foster healthier relationships. Additionally, it significantly contributes to mental well-being and resilience, providing a refuge from the pressures related to achieving perfection and high performance.
By incorporating Shoshin into our lives, we foster clarity and creativity whether learning new skills, transitioning careers, or striving to be more present in our daily activities. This mindset shifts our focus from seeking immediate results to embracing exploration and understanding, enriching our engagement with various pursuits.
Key principles of Shoshin include:
Questioning Assumptions: A key tenet of the beginner’s mind is the readiness to challenge established beliefs and traditional wisdom. By regularly asking “Why?” and “What if?”, we can discover new insights and options that we may have previously overlooked.
Embracing Learning: Adopting a continuous learning mindset encourages us to view every experience—good or bad—as a valuable opportunity for growth. This perspective allows us to enjoy the journey of learning rather than focusing solely on outcomes.
Releasing Ego: By setting aside the need to appear as the expert, we open ourselves to collaboration and innovation. This humility enables us to learn from others, no matter their level of experience.
Staying Curious: By committing to curiosity, we engage more deeply with our surroundings. Seeking out questions and new experiences can lead to meaningful discoveries and enhanced connections with those around us.
Soren aptly notes that “in the expert’s mind, there are few.” This truth illustrates that an excessive focus on expertise can limit our potential for growth and innovation. When we restrict ourselves to established knowledge and routines, we risk stagnation and become resistant to new ideas.
By nurturing a beginner’s mindset, we not only unlock countless possibilities but also develop deeper connections with ourselves and others. This enriching perspective encourages resilience in the face of challenges and fosters a lifelong love of learning, ultimately guiding us to a more fulfilling and enriched existence. The transition from white belt to black belt, therefore, is not merely a technical or physical advancement; it represents a profound shift in mindset and spirit, grounded in the timeless wisdom of Shoshin.
People laugh at dreamers. They question them. They doubt them. They wonder why they’re aiming so high.
But I’ve learned something.
The proof is always in the pudding.
There are simply no words in the English language to describe the immense pride I feel after hosting TEDxHeaton 2026 at Bradford Grammar School.
Even before I walked onto that stage, I knew it was going to be a special day. But I never imagined just how special it would become.
From the beautiful historic building, to the incredible lineup of speakers, artists and guests… from the warmth, kindness and person-centred approach of the organisers… to the amazing conversations, collaborations and friendships that began today… I left feeling incredibly grateful.
It reminded me that sometimes people only understand your vision after you’ve lived it.
So thank you to every single person who made this event possible. 👏🏽
Thank you to the organisers.
Thank you to the volunteers working tirelessly behind the scenes.
Thank you to every speaker who courageously shared their story.
Thank you to everyone who attended and helped make the atmosphere so memorable.
This is a day I will carry with me for the rest of my life.
And finally…
To the girl everyone thought was crazy because she dared to dream…
You weren’t crazy.
You simply saw what others couldn’t see yet.
So today, Queen Esther, I celebrate you.
Thank you for refusing to give up on your dreams.
Here’s to many more stages, many more meaningful conversations, many more collaborations, and many more opportunities to serve.
I had the privilege of being part of the most amazing TEDxHeaton event.
Firstly, a huge thank you to Dr Sohail Ahmed. TEDxHeaton was his vision, and without his determination, belief in people and willingness to open doors for others, none of this would have happened.
We had the most incredible speakers. Many gave their time freely because they believed their ideas were worth sharing. Some travelled long distances to be with us. I laughed, I learned, I was inspired and, at times, I was moved to tears.
But what stayed with me most were the people.
During the break, I spoke to one gentleman who was recovering from serious cancer surgery and still had plasters attached to his arm. Yet he spoke passionately about bringing people of all faiths and backgrounds together and making the world a better place.
I remember thinking to myself, if someone recovering from something so serious can have that much energy, enthusiasm and determination to make a difference, then surely there is more all of us can do.
I also met a father who spent the entire day with his daughter so she could experience TEDx. In a world where everyone is busy, I thought that was something very special.
I am also incredibly grateful to have had the opportunity to stand on the TEDx carpet and host for the very first time. It was an experience I will never forget, and I loved every second of it.
A huge thank you to Bradford Grammar School for believing in TEDxHeaton and providing such an incredible venue. Everyone was in awe of the school. I also bumped into the Headmaster during the day and, despite giving up part of his Saturday, he still took the time to ask if we needed anything. What an incredible Headmaster and what an incredible person.
We had wonderful volunteers who gave up their entire day to help. Thank you also to the families who supported our volunteers, especially those who got up early, gave lifts and helped make the day possible.
Thank you to everyone who donated food and refreshments. A special thank you to Faisal from Regal, Shakeel from Lil’s Brother, Caterers Cash & Carry, Asmat from JKN, The Arches Café and everyone else who contributed so generously.
A very special thank you to Squared Apple. The catering was outstanding and received so many compliments throughout the day.
A special thank you to our hosts. We truly had the king and queen of hosting, King Tony and Queen Esther. You made the experience so enjoyable for everyone who attended.
Thank you to our photographers, videographers, DJ and technical team. So much of what you did went unseen, but the day would not have been the same without you.
Most importantly, thank you to our audience. People started arriving from 9.20am and stayed until the very end. That meant so much.
Thank you doesn’t feel like a big enough word for how grateful I am.
If I could, I would personally thank each and every one of you and tell you how much your kindness, support and generosity meant.
You didn’t just attend an event. You helped create something special
It was inspiring to watch Shahid Islam from Born In Bradford deliver such a thought-provoking TEDxHeaton talk today #BradfordGrammarSchool on the importance of community connectedness and its impact on health and wellbeing.
Shahid highlighted how the social determinants of health shape people’s lives far beyond healthcare services alone, and how health inequalities continue to affect communities across the country. Drawing on the work of Robert Putnam, he explored the decline in social capital and the consequences of increasing isolation, with many of us retreating further into our homes and away from community life.
He also referenced the powerful words of Margaret Mead, reminding us that meaningful change often begins with small groups of committed people working together to strengthen their communities.
A compelling and timely talk that challenged us to think about how we reconnect with one another, build stronger social networks, and create healthier, more resilient communities for everyone.
Congratulations, Shahid, on an excellent TEDxHeaton talk.
Introducing the Youngest Nigerian President for the Bradford Community: The Inspiring Journey of Toyosi Lala
In an era where leadership, innovation, and cultural impact are increasingly intertwined, one young Nigerian is redefining what it means to serve a community while excelling across multiple industries.
Meet Toyosi Lala, popularly known as Mr. Larlah—a globally recognized Master of Ceremonies, Cybersecurity Sales Consultant, film producer, community leader, devoted Christian, husband, and proud father of three.
Recently elected as the President of the Nigerian Community Association Bradford (NCAB), Toyosi has become one of the youngest Nigerian community leaders to assume such a prestigious position in the United Kingdom, bringing with him a fresh vision, boundless energy, and a commitment to fostering unity, growth, and opportunity.
Faith at the Centre of His Journey
Behind every achievement, Toyosi attributes his success to his unwavering faith in Jesus Christ.
A firm believer in the transformative power of faith, he openly acknowledges God’s grace as the foundation of his personal and professional journey. Whether navigating the challenges of family life, higher education, business, entertainment, or community leadership, his Christian values continue to shape his character and decision-making.
Those who know him closely often describe him as a man who leads with humility, compassion, integrity, and purpose—qualities deeply rooted in his faith.
For Toyosi, leadership is not merely about holding a position; it is about serving people, creating opportunities, and leaving a lasting positive impact on society.
A Global Voice on International Stages
For many across the UK and beyond, Toyosi Lala is a familiar face and voice. As a celebrated Master of Ceremonies, he has hosted and coordinated events across multiple countries, including Egypt, Canada, Albania, and numerous cities throughout England and Scotland.
His ability to connect with diverse audiences, create memorable experiences, and bridge cultures has earned him widespread recognition within the African diaspora and international event industry.
Yet beyond the spotlight, Toyosi remains grounded in a simple but powerful philosophy:
“Forget the Past, Act the Present and Focus on the Future.”
This motto continues to guide both his personal life and professional pursuits.
Academic Excellence Meets Technology
While many know him as an entertainer and community figure, Toyosi’s professional credentials tell another remarkable story.
A graduate of the University of Bradford, he earned a Master of Science (MSc) in Cybersecurity, equipping him with the technical expertise to thrive in today’s rapidly evolving digital economy.
Today, he works as a Cybersecurity Sales Consultant, helping organizations understand and navigate complex cybersecurity solutions while bridging the gap between technology and business growth.
His unique blend of technical knowledge and public engagement has earned him an affectionate title among admirers:
“The only MC with an MSc in Cybersecurity.”
A Pioneer in Nigerian Film Production in West Yorkshire
Toyosi’s influence extends far beyond technology and community leadership.
He is recognized as the pioneer Nigerian indigenous film producer in West Yorkshire, breaking new ground for African storytelling within the region.
His award-winning production, “Against the Tides,” captivated audiences when it premiered at the renowned Picturesville Cinema at the National Science and Media Museum in Bradford.
The screening attracted more than 400 attendees, resulting in a sold-out cinema and demonstrating the growing appetite for authentic African stories told through a local lens.
The film’s success not only celebrated Nigerian culture but also showcased Bradford as a vibrant hub for multicultural creativity and artistic expression.
The Next Chapter: Aura-4-Aura
Building on the momentum of Against the Tides, Toyosi and his production team are preparing to unveil the highly anticipated second installment of the series.
Titled “Aura-4-Aura,” the upcoming production promises to continue exploring compelling themes, relatable experiences, and powerful storytelling that resonate with audiences across generations.
While details remain under wraps, anticipation is already building among supporters and film enthusiasts eager to witness the next chapter in this remarkable journey.
Leading Bradford’s Nigerian Community into the Future
Within his first few months as President of the Nigerian Community Association Bradford, Toyosi has demonstrated a strong commitment to community development, strategic partnerships, youth engagement, business collaboration, and cultural promotion.
His administration has already fostered relationships with local businesses, community organizations, civic leaders, and diaspora stakeholders while laying foundations for future initiatives that will benefit families, young people, and entrepreneurs.
His leadership style reflects his belief that communities thrive when people are empowered to contribute their talents and work together toward a common purpose.
A Multitalented Leader Worth Celebrating
From international stages to boardrooms, film sets to community halls, Toyosi Lala continues to inspire many through his versatility, resilience, and dedication to excellence.
Above all, he remains a man of faith who believes that success is most meaningful when it is used to uplift others and glorify God.
As Bradford’s Nigerian community embarks on a new chapter under his leadership, one thing is clear: his story is only just beginning.
Whether as a cybersecurity professional, award-winning producer, global MC, devoted family man, committed Christian, or community president, Toyosi embodies the spirit of modern African excellence.
Today, we celebrate an extraordinary individual whose impact continues to cross borders, break barriers, and inspire future generations.
Celebrate this amazing and multitalented personality — Toyosi Lala, popularly known as Mr. Larlah.
TONY TOKUNBO ETEKA FERNANDEZ 