The Female as Liability Asset
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.
Don’t let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice, and most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
Some females seek marriage as an escape route to boycott fending for their selves. They get the notion that once married, it would be the husband’s duty to provide all her needs irrespective of the spouse’s financial status whether buoyant or weak, with a waving idea that; no money, no love. Today, it is certain that most ladies are being accosted with questions like: Are you schooling? What do you do for a living? Where do you work? How many are you in your family? What position are you? What do your parents do for a living? And so forth, too much questions that have become a trend in most social media chats and physical contact by the male gender.
Without much ado about nothing, these only show inklings that the male mentality towards marital courtship is fast and vast changing, especially in Africa. No longer is the female more interested in the background and means of livelihood of her would be suitor, the men also want to know what the lady is contributing in wedlock; is it economic and financial support, or individual and family liability.
One thing some ladies have let elude them is; women have never been dependent on their spouse. In the days of old, the husband marries the wife in order to be loved and cared for, as well as to increase the stocks in his barn and household; with children and food provisions. The wife works on her husband’s farmland, and of which she may have her own special portion for cultivating vegetables.
The woman, man and probably their children included clear the bushes, till the soil, plant crops, and nurture them to harvest, preserve for the house and sell off the cash crops on market days. From time, woman has always worked zealously alongside man to make the home well enough.
Those have not changed in centuries after but have evolved from traditional to modern domestic support system. It is wise for prospective wife materials to bear in mind no man wants to be attached to a wholesome liability.
The measures to be taken to avert being just another mouth to feed and a body to clothe by your future husband is to get yourself acquainted with the real world. A world now turned into a global village, where women are amongst prominent personalities, entrepreneurs in the society, an era that has seen many great women holding offices the world over.
Where do you stand? You can stand anywhere; the key is getting yourself identified either by a profession or a vocation. Every human has been born with a talent; each individual has been cut for him or her destined calling.
Choose and align with whatever you like doing best. Go to school or an acquisition centre to emancipate your given skills and exercise every potential.
A male Physician courting a female Pharmacist may not be love at first sight alone but perhaps a calculated motive to hitch a suitable life partner for better financial base. Likewise a Barber that is dating a Hairdresser for keeps.
Analysing this couples, it is plausible they would live a comfortable lifestyle because in the right society where their services are often demanded, they
tend to make regular sales.
Gender wise, unemployment rate is higher for females than their male counterparts. Females face particularly strong challenges in entering the labour force due to early motherhood and lack of education. One reason for this is the belief by many youths that the prospects of getting lucrative jobs are higher in the urban cities. Many of these youths lack vocational education and technical skills which make them casualties in an increasingly competitive economy.
It has been revealed that more women are entering the labour market to pursue their careers. Due to improvement in female education, women are not only getting married later but also, are increasingly becoming more insistent on financial independence.
So ladies should be engrossed with entrepreneurship, prepare for you, an independent financial territory, before and after marriage. Do not sit back and relax on your spouse for money to buy match boxes for the kitchen, sanitary
towel for your monthly cycle and cookies for your kids. Learn a skill, get educated, be a support to your home and society today for a better future. Say
no to total liability, embrace part independence, and be inspired.
Written by Gift Amukoyo
TONY TOKUNBO ETEKA FERNANDEZ 